Location: Buffalo, NY
How much is your wedding going to cost? $35,000
What’s the payment breakdown?
My fiancé and I split deposits for:
– Venue: $4,500, $500 deposit
– Catering (appetizers, meal, five-hour open bar, and table/chair/tent rentals): $17,000, $750 deposit
– Photographer for engagement shoot and wedding: $2,750, $750 deposit
– DJ/ceremony music/photo booth: $2,100, $500 deposit
– Videographer: $2,500, $500 deposit
– Transportation for guests: $2,000, $500 deposit
Budgeted items being paid for by us both (we’re not getting married until next year):
– Flowers ($1,000)
– Cake ($1,000)
– Favors ($300)
– Decor ($3,000)
– Rehearsal dinner ($2,000)
– Save the dates ($200)
– Invites ($400)
– Rings ($1,500)
Costs for me:
– Dress ($3,000)
– Hair & makeup ($150)
– Bridesmaids’ gifts ($300, eight bridesmaids/MOH)
– Parents’ gifts ($200)
Costs for my fiancé:
– Suit ($250)
– Groomsmen’s gifts ($500 — will admit he went over budget on these)
My parents were kind enough to give us $25,000 toward wedding expenses. The remainder will be paid for by me and my fiancé. Overall our budget is $40,000. Our estimated guest count is over 200 people.
How do you feel about it?
“I would have liked to keep the costs down a bit, but unfortunately that is hard to do without lowering the guest count. I did not want to make any sacrifices in terms of open bar, photographer, or guest list. I am DIY-ing almost all of my decorations, not only to save money but also because I think it is fun. I hope to make some of my costs back by re-selling “wedding items” after the wedding on Facebook Marketplace, and I also plan to buy a lot of items resale. My dad is making centerpieces for me (rustic table lanterns). The most important thing to me is that my wedding is fun, memorable, and unique.”
Who do you think is responsible for paying, and why?
“Personally, I think the couple is responsible for paying. My parents were generous to offer up a large sum of the costs, because they have guests who I normally wouldn’t invite who they want there. (I really don’t mind — they are nice people, I just don’t see them as often or know them very well.) I’m happy to add some additional people to the guest list in return for the financial help. If I was paying for the wedding myself, I would have reduced the guest list some and taken out a loan if necessary. Our engagement is a little bit longer than average to allow us more time to save money.”