Though you’ll likely form many friendships in the workplace, you’re the only person who’s truly going to advocate for your needs. And that advocacy starts the moment you get the offer. “You want to work for the kind of employer who encourages you to speak on your own behalf,” Stahl says, “especially because that level of empowerment translates into how you’ll represent them.”
It’s natural to feel afraid that if you negotiate too hard, you’ll lose the offer, but Stahl cautions against this fear. “If they rescind an offer because you tried to negotiate, it points to their integrity and support for employees,” she says. In short, you wouldn’t want to work there anyway.