How To Tell If You’re Settling — So You Can Stop
“You don’t want to choose a guy out of desperation and commit to a relationship where you have ‘settling’ worries more often than not,” writes Diana Kirschner, Ph.D. for
Psychology Today. The first question Dr. Kirschner suggests you ask yourself about settling is, “Do I feel superior to my partner?” If the answer is yes, she writes, think about
why. If it’s something fairly superficial — for example, you roll your eyes at your
partner’s love of Harry Potter — then thinking critically about
why you feel superior could help you realize you’re settling. If it’s a real concern, however — for example, your partner treats others unkindly — then that can shed light on the relationship, too.