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But when it was time to say goodbye, Jacobs struggled. She said she met with two social workers before leaving the hospital, but remembers “they sat as far away from me as they could, like I had a disease, like I was contagious.” A third social worker was more helpful, Jacobs says. Over the course of an hour, that third social worker also asked Jacobs if  she was thinking about harming herself. “Because I said I wanted to be with my daughter, that was a red flag for her, so she asked me if I was suicidal, and I said I don’t think so, but I didn’t really know at that point.”