The Steamiest, Sexiest Gifts To Turn Your Lover On

When it comes to giving a gift for the person you’re sleeping with, you can certainly opt for something sentimental or functional. But why not give them something that doubles as a gift for you — a sexy present that has the potential to make that night’s romp even hotter?

There’s the classic silky lingerie — it’s cliché for a reason, after all (because it’s super-hot). But maybe your sex life calls for a slightly kinkier gift, such as a flog for spanking. Or perhaps your relationship is more playful, and you want to get them a sexy gift that elicits a smile. Either way, we rounded up a lineup of gifts perfect for anyone hoping to appeal to their boo’s naughty side.

Scroll through to find the perfect sexy gift for you and your partner.

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Pour Les Femmes Silk Robe

If physical touch is your partner’s love language, they’ll love this silky robe, which feels oh, so amazing against bare skin.

Pour Les Femmes Pour Les Femmes Silk Robe, $, available at goop

Desire Luxury Rechargeable Remote Control Panty Vibrator

Let your partner unwrap the remote control to these pleasure-inducing panties, which have a saddle-shaped vibrator inside them. Wear them around the house on a lazy Saturday, and have your SO surprise you by turning them (and you) on when you’re least expecting it. The gift is not just novelty —  the vibe boasts 12 speeds and eight patterns.

Love Honey Desire Luxury Rechargeable Remote Control Panty Vibrato, $, available at Love Honey

Crave Vesper Necklace

This chic pendant necklace sits at the perfect intersection between dainty and statement-making. And it doubles as a sex toy. No one will know unless you tell them — but when you catch your partner wearing it, you’ll get a little thrill.

Crave Crave Vesper, $, available at Babeland

Unbound Babes Kinkstarter Set

If you and your SO have talked about taking your kink level up a notch, but have been a little shy to take action, this kit is the perfect catalyst. It comes with nipple and clit clamps, a dildo, and a paddle with patent leather on one side and silky tassels on the other.

Unbound The Kinkstarter Set, $, available at Unbound

Anya Lust Slow Sex Set

You won’t even have to write a card to accompany this gift — your partner will get the point as soon as they tear off the wrapping paper. The set comes with a book about the female orgasm, and a nipple play gel. Block off a few hours, and enjoy some slow, sexy exploration of each other’s bodies, hopefully leading to the best orgasm either of you have ever had.

Anya Lust Slow Sex Set, $, available at Anya Lust

Champ Starter Kit

This fancy kit comes with both ultra-thin and ribbed condoms, as well as a hypoallergenic water-based lubricant formulated to work safely with most toys and condoms. It’s a great basic set for anyone who hates standing in the condom or lube aisle, hemming and hawing over the best option. Plus, if you love the product, you can subscribe.

Champ Champs The Starting Lineup, $, available at Champ

Lovehoney Oh! Massage Candle

Not only does it smell glorious, you and your honey can drizzle the warm oil all over each other for a sexy massage.

Lovehoney Oh! Lovehoney Oh! Vanilla Massage Candle 2.1oz, $, available at Lovehoney

A blindfold

An inexpensive gift, with an outsized impact. Let them unwrap a blindfold for a hint of sexy things to come to come.

LYQLXL Satin Blindfold, $, available at Amazon

Lovehoney Choose Your Pleasure Sex Game

Mix it up with a sexy game. The cards have a lusty suggestion on each side (like: “Talk dirty while making love”). You pick the one that sounds the best, and dive in.

Lovehoney Choose Your Pleasure Sex Game, $, available at Lovehoney

Liberator Wedge

Okay, so this is not the prettiest gift. But it is unbelievably functional. Use it during foreplay, oral sex, or penetrative sex, for extra support or to make it easier to hit your or your partner’s favorite spots. Just try it — you won’t regret it.

Liberator, One Up Innovations Liberator Wedge, $, available at Adam and Eve

Position of the Day: Sex Every Day in Every Way

This book’s motto is that “a new position a day keeps the love doctor away.” You and your partner can find out for sure if that’s true.

Nerve Position of the Day: Sex Every Day in Every Way, $, available at Amazon

Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence

If your partner would prefer something a touch more literary, give them this book by renowned couples therapist Esther Perel. It explores how those in long-term relationships can have more “exciting, playful, and even poetic” sex. It’s a read — but many long-term couples swear by it as the one thing that kickstarted their sex life anew.

Harper Paperbacks Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence, $, available at Amazon

Sexy Pins

A playful LGBTQ+ pride pin they can proudly attach to a jean jacket or scarf. When they look down, they can think of you… and what you might do to them later that night.

HeckinUnicorn Scissors — enamel pin, $, available at Heckin Unicorn

A Lightly Sexy Piece Of Lingerie

This shirt gives off classic, oversized button-up vibes, but with a sexy, sheer twist. Give it to your babe — or don it yourself, and turn yourself into the gift that’s waiting to be unwrapped.

Venus Sheer Button Up Sexy Shirt, $, available at Venus

Kookie Int’l Ultimate Thigh Harness

Think of all the fun you and your boo can have with this adjustable, cushioned leather thigh harness.

Smitten Kitten Ultimate Thigh Harness, $, available at Smitten Kitten

A Lingerie Bodysuit

It’s super-chic… and easy to take off fast.

Lonely Label Delilah Bodysuit Soot, $, available at Lonely Label

Bossy Bottom — A Queer Comic By Maddelyn

This commenter says it best: “Utterly fabulous. Such an awesome celebration of sex, of kink, of bottoming, of saying what you want. Every time I read this, I grin the entire time.”

BlackLodgePress Bossy Bottom – a queer comic by Maddelyn, $, available at Etsy

Massage Oil

Give them this gentle, safe-for-sensitive-skin massage oil, along with a few coupons for free erotic massages from you.

Aveda Aveda all-sensitive™ body formula, $, available at Aveda

A Sexy Slip 

If their love language is touch, they need this slip, which will feel silky smooth against their skin (and yours).

Journelle Press Alt+1 for screen-reader mode. Stop this message with Alt+0., $, available at Journelle

Love Dark Milk Chocolate For Arousal


This chocolate contains THC and CBD, and is specifically formulated to enhance arousal and sensitize your skin. Share it with your boo, and enjoy mind-blowing sex that night. (The catch: You’ve got to live in a state with a dispensary that sells the stuff to partake.)

1906 1906 Love Dark Milk Chocolate For Arousal, $, available at 1906

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